Before You Give Advice To Someone

A few years ago I shared a challenge I was having with one of my children with a friend of mine, CB, who helps care for our church. I so appreciated his first response. ?He asked, “Mark, how are you doing?”

Before you start giving advice to someone, ask how they’re doing.

CB could have begun making various suggestions of things I could do with my child. He could’ve shared pertinent parenting Bible verses. But as a great pastor, he first cared for my soul.

Yes, there was a time for advice and talking about how I should approach the situation. But that came later.

Before you start giving advice to someone, ask how they’re doing.

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I’m a pastor at Saving Grace Church in Indiana, PA. I’m married to Kristi, have 5 kids, and a growing number of grandkids. I’ve written a lot of worship songs. I also like to paint.

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  1. matttconp says

    Especially with your spouse.

    Seriously, guys. Don't try to fix her problem until you've listened thoroughly to her and let her unload her burdens. That's half the solution right there.


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