Do You See Sunday Gatherings As Sacred?

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I gotta admit: I don’t always take Sundays seriously. Often times, attending church feels like another thing to put on the calendar, right along with doctor visits, school plays, running errands, and visiting the library. I have full weeks, and church is one more thing added to my full week. And so I go to church, do church-ish things, like sing and listen to a sermon, then go home and move on to the next thing. Oil changed? Check. Church? Check. Pay bills? Check.

But I was recently reminded that the gathering of believers on Sundays is a very sacred thing indeed. I would encourage you to slowly read the following quote by N.T. Wright:

In particular, the gospels (especially John) and the early practice of the church (as in Paul) reflect the very early understanding of the church that the first day of the week, the day of Easter, has become a sign within the present world and its temporal sequence that the life of the age to come has already broken in. Sunday, kept as a commemoration of Easter ever since that event itself (a quite remarkable phenomenon when you come to think about it), is not simply a legacy of Victorian values but a perpetual sign, joyfully renewed week by week, that all time belongs to God and stands under the renewing lordship of Jesus Christ.

Of course, worship should be “seven whole days, not one in seven.” Many Christians will find, for all kinds of reasons, that Sunday is a difficult day to attend long church services. But we should remind ourselves that the earliest Christians lived in a world where Sunday was the first day of the working week, much like our Monday, and that they valued its symbolism so highly that they were prepared to get up extra early both to celebrate Easter once again and to anticipate the final Eighth Day of Creation, the start of the new week, the day when God will renew all things.

Surprised by Hope (pp. 261-262).

In other words, every time we come together, we are experiencing the reality that the future kingdom of God has broken into our present, broken world, and we are anticipating the time when Jesus will return to make all things new.

When rednecks, white collars, blue collars, nerds, housewives, homeschoolers, and public schoolers gather together to worship Jesus, that is a small taste of the glorious friendship and fellowship we’ll experience in the new heaven and new earth.

When a black man, white man, Jewish woman, and a Korean teen all share the Lord’s Supper together, it’s a foretaste of the day when we will all tuck into the Feast of Lamb – a feast that will make Food Network’s thanksgiving dinner look like prison food.

Something very, very holy takes place when men and women gather together to worship in Jesus name. Every gathered church is like an outpost of the new kingdom, a bright beacon shining in the midst of a sinful world. Jesus himself dwells in our midst, and we experience a deep fellowship with Jesus and with others that is only possible because Jesus has risen from the dead. The kingdom of God has broken into the present, and we get to taste it every Sunday morning.

All of this raises the crucial question: Do we take the Sunday morning gathering seriously? 

How can you know if you take it seriously? Here are a few simple diagnostic questions to ask yourself:

  • Do I get sufficient sleep on Saturday night so that I can energetically worship, attentively listen, and joyfully serve on Sunday morning? (guilty as charged)
  • Do I wake up early enough on Sunday morning so that my morning is not frantic, stressful, and distracting?
  • Do I arrive at church early enough to drop of my children at class and be in the sanctuary before the service starts?
  • Do I turn off my phone during the service so that I am not tempted to text, Tweet, Facebook browse, or play fantasy football? (guilty as charged)
  • Do I stick around after the service long enough to actually engage with fellow brothers and sisters in Christ?

These questions are not intended to be a legalistic checklist which must be followed to the letter. Rather, the questions are simply intended to get us thinking about where our priorities lie.

I gotta admit: I don’t always take Sundays seriously. But I want that to change. Sundays are sacred.

Three Simple Ways To Bless The Socks Off Your Pastor

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Contrary to the popular conception of the pastor who only works one day a week (see Reverend Lovejoy from The Simpsons), real pastoral ministry is tough, draining, and emotionally taxing. It’s not for the faint of heart. It requires a unique combination of battle toughness and fatherly tenderness. A pastor is?closely connected to the lives of the people he serves, and vicariously experiences both the joy and heartbreak that his people experience. When a young man gets married, the pastor rejoices. When the same young man gets cancer, the pastor is heartbroken. When a couple has a child, the pastor is elated. When the same couple gets divorced five years later, the pastor is heartbroken.

Given the unique challenges of pastoral ministry, pastors desperately need encouragement. Encouragement is what keeps the pastor going. Encouragement is fuel for the pastoral engine. It’s like a spiritual adrenaline shot.

Because I’m not currently a pastor, I can write this post, which, in the past, would have seemed self-serving. So how can you encourage your pastor? Here are some simple ways.

PAY CLOSE ATTENTION TO HIS SERMONS, THEN THANK HIM FOR SPECIFIC ASPECTS OF HIS SERMONS

Preaching is a funny thing. A pastor can spend anywhere between 10 to 30 hours on a sermon. This sermon prep involves prayerfully wrestling through difficult passages (have you ever tried explaining Revelation?), figuring out how best to apply the passage to everyday life (what does an Ethiopian eunuch have in common with a stay at home mom?), and organizing the sermon in a coherent manner. On Sunday he stands up in front of his congregation and pours himself out for forty minutes, and then it’s over. Thirty hours of prep for a forty minute sermon. And he has to do the same thing again next week, and the week after that, and the week after that. It’s a joyful, exhausting, delighful, brutal grind.

If you want to bless your pastor, thank him very specifically for each sermon. Don’t simply say, “Lovely sermon pastor.” Instead, thank him for specific phrases, specific application points, and specific ways God used the sermon to change and challenge you. This specific encouragement will echo in his mind as he prepares his next sermon. Pay close attention, then thank your pastor specifically.

CHEERFULLY SUPPORT YOUR PASTOR’S LEADERSHIP

This doesn’t mean that you blindly support your pastor, no matter what decision he makes. This isn’t 1984, groupthink, follow the leader kind of support. It simply means that you maintain a general attitude of cheerful support toward your pastor, knowing that he is seeking to lead the church to the best of his ability, for the glory of God. I think this is the heart behind Hebrews 13:17, which says:

Obey your leaders and submit to them, for they are keeping watch over your souls, as those who will have to give an account. Let them do this with joy and not with groaning, for that would be of no advantage to you.

Do you want your pastor to experience joy? Then cheerfully submit to his?leadership. When you have the opportunity, thank your pastor for specific aspects of his leadership. Does your pastor place a strong leadership emphasis on sound doctrine? Thank him for that. Does your pastor place a strong leadership emphasis on evangelism? Thank him for that. Does your pastor place a strong leadership emphasis on mentoring others? Thank him for that. You can encourage your pastor by cheerfully supporting his leadership.

TAKE LEADERSHIP INITIATIVE

One of the things that constantly haunts pastors is the sense that there is always more to be done and not enough time to do it. There is more evangelism to be done, more Bible studies to be started, more homebound folks to visit, more community outreach to initiate. Most pastors are burdened by all they are leaving undone.

If you want to bless the socks off of your pastor, take the initiative in ministry. Instead of asking your pastor to start more Bible studies, ask your pastor if you can start a Bible study. Instead of asking your pastor to create?a prayer team, ask your pastor if you can start a prayer team. Instead of asking your pastor for more women’s ministry, ask your pastor if you can start a women’s ministry.

The work of ministry is not primarily done by pastors; it’s done by the members of the church. Ephesians 4:11-12 tells us that the pastor is supposed to equip the people in his church for the work of ministry:

And he gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the shepherds and teachers, to equip the saints for the work of ministry, for building up the body of Christ…

Do you want to bless your pastor? Step up to the plate and take some initiative. Don’t blame your pastor for the absence of a particular ministry. Rather, be the one who starts that ministry.

Trust me: your pastor is desperate for encouragement. Pastoral ministry is often done behind the scenes, with little or no thanks. And Satan loves to discourage pastors, because few things are more dangerous than a faith-filled, thoroughly encouraged pastor. Encourage your pastor today. It’s for your good and his.

Why You Shouldn’t Give Up On The Church

 

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This?article was?originally Published at RelevantMagazine.com.

I grew up in the church. No really, I grew up in the church. I am a PK and spent countless hours in church and doing church activities. I am a church native and familiar with all its quirks and cultural oddities, with all its strengths, and with all its failings. As the son of prominent evangelical pastor, John Piper, I not only saw the inner workings of my own church I was exposed to church leaders from around the world and saw the good and the bad from their churches too.

Many people like me, who grew up immersed in church, have given up on it. Church is archaic, domineering, impersonal, hypocritical, irrelevant, contentious, petty, boring, and stale. It?s institutional instead of authentic and religious but not relational they say. I have seen all this in church and can agree that each accusation is true in instances. A PK sees all this up close and far too personally and feels each fault even more intensely. It really is enough to make one want to bail on church.

And I had my chance. Despite growing up steeped in sound Bible teaching and a loving context, I grew up empty in my soul. I believed but didn?t fully believe. I obeyed but kept parts of my life for myself, bits of dishonesty and secrecy. I knew Jesus and knew He was the only way to be saved from my sin, but I didn?t give my life to Him. In the end it blew up in my face and I was faced with the decision: stay in church and work through my mess or leave and be free. I stayed.

While leaving was an option, it was one that I looked at and saw emptiness. Sure, the church can cause a lot of pain and annoyance, but it?s where Jesus? people are connected. And really, that?s what it is about ? Jesus. That?s what made it so clear to me that staying was best.

The church is a messy place by nature. That?s what happens when a bunch of sinners come together anywhere. But it is a messy place designed by God to be his face to the World, and all those sinners reflect Him in unique ways. Nothing reflects God to the world like the church does. No, we don?t ?do? church 100% correctly, and we never will. No, church is not a perfect place. Yes, church displays the sins of all its people very publicly. But none of that changes what it is or can be.

To leave the church is to hurt yourself and to hurt others. I don?t mean hurt like a slap in the face (though in some cases it?s a bit like that). I mean hurt like malnourishment. We were created by God to connect with others and, in that connection, reveal more of Him to each other and to the world. When we depart we deprive ourselves of those aspects of God others reflect and we deprive them of those aspects we reflect. Leaving is starving our souls and others?.

Solitude is wonderful. But many things in life, maybe most things, are better enjoyed with others. Including God. That?s why we?re called to worship with others, to study with others, to pray with others. And church is the outlet for that, an imperfect outlet, but the outlet nonetheless. God wants us to experience Him to the fullest and that is done with others in song, in study, in reflection, in prayer, in tears, in confession in celebration ? with others, doing church.

Leaving the church is escapism. You may find stresses relieved and conflicts avoided. It may feel like a breath of fresh air to leave behind traditional stuffiness and legalistic hypocrisy. Even now, I often want to slap the stupid out of the church. It can be such a maddening collection of people. (And I suspect I contribute to the stupid that needs slapping just as often.) But none of that changes what it is: the organism of God?s presence and kingdom in the world. It is His means of connecting people to the gospel, to hope, to life. No matter your frustrations and hurts, it cannot be abandoned. You need it now whether or not you know it, and someday you will have a need nothing and no one else can meet. And the church will be where Jesus shows himself to you.

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How Do You See The Saints?

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Have you ever said or thought this Bible verse:

As for the saints in the land, they are the annoying ones, in whom is all my irritation.

Or how about this one:

As for the saints in the land, they are the ones who are just so slow to change, who I get so tired of trying to help.

There are a hundred variations on that verse. We have special variations for our teens, and those who don?t look like us, those we?ve had a conflict with, those who talk too much, those who make a beeline for us every Sunday when they see us, those who make a beeline away from us when they see us, those?.you get the idea.

Sometimes it?s good to be reminded of the actual Bible verse:

As for the saints in the land, they are the excellent ones, in whom is all my delight. PS 16:3

The NASB uses the phrase ?majestic ones? in this verse.

Yeah but Mark, you don?t know my church. ?Excellent ones?? ?Majestic ones?? Ones ?in whom is all my delight?? Not quite.

But that?s the way God sees his children. As the excellent ones, clothed with his Son?s righteousness. As the apples of his eye, the ones in whom is all his delight. God said of Israel: ?he who touches you touches the apple of his eye? (Zechariah 2:8). How much more does he love his blood-bought children – every single one of them – warts and all, weaknesses and all. He loves us despite our foibles and failures. He sees us in Christ and he is transforming us from one degree of glory to another. ?God sees us as his redeemed ones, his children, joint-heirs of Christ, his new creations, holy ones, his chosen race, a royal?priesthood, and his very own possession (1 Pe 2:9).

CS Lewis said if we could see each other as beautiful as we will be in heaven, we?d be tempted to worship each other.

If God sees his children as excellent ones and takes great?delight in each one, shouldn?t we? And especially if God sees you as one of his majestic ones, shouldn’t you do the same others? ?The next time you?re dreading going to your small group, think ?They are the excellent ones in whom is all my delight.? Or when that brother who is always struggling asks you for prayer think, ?You are one of God?s majestic ones.? The next time you?re tempted to be annoyed at your spouse, thank Jesus for giving you one his excellent ones and ask him to help you delight in them.

Ask God to help you see the saints as he sees them. Sure they are weak. Sure they mess up. Sure they might not always to be easy to be with. But they are God?s excellent ones in whom is all his delight. And you can delight in them too.

Do Prodigals Feel Welcome At Our Churches?

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We all know “prodigal” kids. Maybe you are a prodigal kid. The kid who grew up in church, went off to college, and proceeded to make a royal disaster of his life. The church girl who got pregnant at age 17. The pastor’s kid who started hanging with the wrong crowd and picked up a heroin habit.

In his kindness, God often brings a prodigal to the end of his rope. No money. Living on the street. Kicked out of college. A string of broken relationships. Tempted to eat food that is intended for pigs. You get the point. And when prodigals bottom out, they often return home and to the church.

When a prodigal returns to your church, what sort of welcome will he receive?

See here’s the thing about prodigals: they have baggage. (Of course, we all have baggage, we’re just a little better at hiding it.)

The prodigal needs to get a smoke in between the singing and the sermon.

The prodigal has tattoos that may not be “church friendly”.

The prodigal has a girlfriend who isn’t modesty approved.

The prodigal smells like beer.

The prodigal wears a t-shirt of a band that would not be played on a CCM top 40 station.

Will we stay away from the prodigal until he gets his life back together? Until he starts attending small group, stops smoking, and ditches the girlfriend? Until he starts talking the talk and walking the walk? Will we talk about the prodigal behind his back? Will we point out the prodigal to our children as an example of what happens when you disobey your parents?

Or will we embrace him? Laugh with him? Invite him over for dinner? Tell him how happy we are to see him? Take a real, concerted interest in his girlfriend? Shower him with love and affection and gratefulness?

The way welcome prodigals back to church says a lot about our knowledge of God, and a lot about our awareness of our own sinful tendencies, and a lot about our understanding of grace. And the way we welcome prodigals back to church has a significant impact on whether that prodigal keeps coming back to church.

But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and felt compassion, and ran and embraced him and kissed him. And the son said to him, ?Father, I have sinned against heaven and before you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son.? But the father said to his servants, ?Bring quickly the best robe, and put it on him, and put a ring on his hand, and shoes on his feet. And bring the fattened calf and kill it, and let us eat and celebrate. For this my son was dead, and is alive again; he was lost, and is found.? And they began to celebrate. (Luke 15:20-24 ESV)

Are Millennials Less Godly than Previous Generations?

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Young people are leaving the church at an alarming rate. At least that?s the narrative you hear over and over again. As the narrative goes, these godless, self-centered, me-first, consumerist millennials are abandoning the church, the body of Christ, for individualistic spirituality. No more will organized religion suffice for them. They are forsaking the faith of their fathers. We should be concerned, very concerned!

Assuming that young people are, in fact, leaving the church in droves it raises a question: are millennials more godless than previous generations? It seems like obvious answer is ?yes?; they?re leaving the church after all. But such a question deserves closer examination.

In decades past America was a traditionally churched, religious nation. A significant portion of society was religiously involved, and church was a cultural centerpiece. Those who grew up in explicitly religious families and contexts attended church out of habit. It was expected that come Sunday morning they would scrub behind their ears, put on their nice trousers and tie, and off to church they?d go. The power of cultural expectations was enormous. In entire swaths of the country a person was a pariah if he wasn’t a churchgoer. But no more. Sure, the Bible belt still exists, but the cultural pressure to be in church week in and week out has waned to near zero.

Along with waning cultural pressure, the respect for institutions has diminished among young people, and with it the respect for institutional leaders. While the good Reverend McGillicuddy might once have been a community icon and an authority figure in people?s personal lives he is no longer. Neither are churches community hubs (at least in white communities). Young people don?t look to institutions or their heads for instruction. The trust isn?t there.

And there is a reason trust is missing for the institutional church. For decades a gospel of moralism and legalism was taught in numerous churches. People attended because it was the ?right thing to do? and a way to ?get right with God.? The expectations placed on members were a particular brand of morality built around which things we don?t do (drink, cuss, smoke, watch certain movies, listen to certain music, etc.). It was a burdensome law, one nobody could keep. Many didn?t even try though they acted like it on Sundays. And while everyone knew it they kept on doing it. Except now young people won?t pretend any more or follow an institution so full of fakery. They don?t trust the hypocrisy and they reject the moralism.

So what is it young people are leaving behind? In many cases they are leaving a faux godliness. Millions of lost people, people hanging their hat on morality or mere attendance, populated the pews of the church in previous generations. They were just a lot harder to pick out than those who brazenly walk out the door, so hard we can?t even be sure how many there were.

To answer the question, no, millennials are not more godless. They?re just more obvious. People suffer from the same sin condition now that we have since Eden. This generation?s expression of it is to reject the hypocritical, cultural Christianity of yesteryear. But the hypocrisy that was subtle before, while easier to ignore, was not godlier. It was no more connected to the gospel and to regeneration that is walking away from church altogether. Yes, be concerned that young people are leaving the church, but be more concerned why. In many cases it isn?t because they reject Christ; it?s because they never found him at church either from the pulpit or the pews.

[Disclaimer: Writing anything about ?the church? is risky, as is writing anything about an entire generation of people. It requires writing in generalities and broad strokes. This is not intended to lump all churches, church-goers, and millennials into the same boat but rather to speak to tendencies and trends over the years.]

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Church Is For Messy People

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We tend to get dressed up for church. Depending on your denomination, getting dressed up might look like wearing a suit and tie or a dress. Or, getting dressed up might look like wearing your best pair of jeans and a collared shirt. We clean up before going to church. We shower and we brush our hair. We want to, at the least, look like we have it together. For the most part, we don’t go to church wearing yoga pants or sweatpants. We don’t roll out of bed and go straight to church.

I distinctly remember one Sunday when a man said to me something like, “When I look around, I see all these people who have their lives together. Meanwhile, my life is a mess.”

Church should be a place where messy people feel comfortable. When I say “messy people”, I don’t mean people who are willfully engaging in unrepentant sin. I mean people who are seeking to follow Jesus, but who often find themselves struggling, and falling, and failing. I’m talking about the weak, weary, and worn out.

  • I’m talking about the couple who is seeking the Lord, and yet their daughter is not a Christian, and is living with her boyfriend.
  • I’m talking about the young man who is following Jesus, yet also deals with deep depression and suicidal thoughts.
  • I’m talking about the woman who loves Jesus, yet also finds herself regularly struggling with homosexual desires.
  • I’m talking about the teenage boy who is trying to live for Jesus, yet also struggles with cutting himself.
  • I’m talking about the woman who has followed Jesus for many years, yet can’t come to church anymore because she is racked with arthritis and fibromyalgia.
  • I’m talking about the older single man who is faithfully following Jesus, yet regularly struggles with despair because he isn’t married.
  • I’m talking about the woman who walks with Christ, yet can’t seem to overcome her struggles with being overweight.
  • I’m talking about the young woman who is new to following Christ, and isn’t quite sure how to handle her struggle with bulimia.

How can we serve “messy” people? How can we make “messy” people feel welcome in our churches? Several ways.

Don’t act shocked when we see sin.?Unfortunately, we tend to act shocked when certain sins or struggles come to light. We aren’t surprised by pride or anger or impatience. But we are shocked when someone says they struggle with suicidal thoughts or homosexual desires or the desire to cut themselves. We are shocked when someone’s child gets caught with drugs. But we shouldn’t be shocked. Even as Christians, we still have a sinful nature. That sinful nature manifests itself in many different ways. We shouldn’t be shocked when we see sin. If we are shocked, it means we haven’t come face to face with the depravity that lurks in our own hearts.

Regularly acknowledge our own sins, failures, and weaknesses.?The truth is, nobody has it all together. All of us are desperate sinners in need of a mighty Savior. All of us are sick patients in need of a wise physician. I don’t struggle with an eating disorder, but I sure as heck have a whole lot of other struggles.

Regularly revel in the mighty power of Jesus.?We should talk about our sins and struggles, but we can’t stop there. We are weak and empty, but Jesus is mighty and full of grace. There is no struggle bigger than Jesus. There is no sin that cannot be conquered by the risen Savior. There is no failure that cannot be covered by the blood of Christ. We need to constantly remind ourselves that Jesus is bigger and better than we can imagine. The gospel is the power of God for salvation and sanctification.

Would “messy” people feel comfortable in your church? Or would they feel like there are certain struggles that they need to hide? The gospel allows us to openly confess our struggles. The gospel also gives us hope that our struggles will not define us. The gospel allows us to be “messy” and hopeful at the same time.

A Letter To Everyone Who Doesn’t Have A Valentine

Dear Friends,

Tomorrow is Valentines Day, also known as “Make Single People Feel Like Total Losers” Day. From the moment you wake up until the moment you fall asleep, you will be reminded that, for some inexplicable reason, you do not have a husband, wife, boyfriend, or girlfriend.

You will also be made to feel like a worthless piece of crap who will never be in a relationship and will end up hoarding cats at the end of your life. You may receive a call from your mother in which she:?1) Asks if you have any marriage prospects OR 2) Tries to match you up with someone.

I will not say that Jesus is your Valentine, because that is incredible cheesy and moderately creepy.

However, I do want to remind you of a few things.

  • Being single does not make you any less valuable or any less of a person. Jesus, the most human person to ever live, was single. You are valuable to God because you are his son or daughter. He treasures you because he made you in his image and bought you with his blood, not because you have a significant other. Tomorrow, find your identity and value in Christ, not in your current relational status. Your essential identity as a child of God does not change depending on your relational status. Tomorrow, feel God’s deep pleasure and delight in you.
  • Being single does not mean you are incomplete.?You are not half a person, half a Christian, or half a church member just because you are single. You are fully accepted and complete in Christ. God delights in you as you are, not as you will be once you are in a relationship.
  • Singleness is not a holding pattern.?Due to the well-meaning, yet often unhelpful remarks of others, you can be made to feel as if being single is some sort of in-between stage for your life. Almost as if you can’t effectively serve God until you are married with kids. This is a lie. Singleness is not a holding pattern, it’s a time for explosion. God wants your single years to be some of the most fruitful, God-honoring years of your life. Paul wished everyone could be single so that everyone could have single-minded devotion to the Lord. Don’t think of your single years as an in-between staging area for the rest of your life. Use tomorrow to strategize about how you can most effectively serve the Lord.
  • Your church needs you.?Unfortunately, going to church can be a regular reminder that you are still single. But as a married guy, I can confidently say that your church needs you. A church made up almost exclusively of ?married couples can’t function nearly as effectively as a church with a mix of married and single folks. You may be single, but you have particular God-given gifts and abilities that your church needs. Don’t deprive the members of your church of the gifts God has given you. Don’t believe the lie that church is only for married folks.
  • Turn your loneliness to prayer.?At some point tomorrow you will feel lonely. When those times come, turn to the Lord in prayer. Confess your loneliness to him, but also proclaim your trust in his goodness, kindness, and mercy. Thank God that he truly does care about every detail of your life, including your relationships. Ask God for the supernatural power to be content in all circumstances. Loneliness without prayer is fodder for temptation. Loneliness with prayer can create godliness.
  • Beware of unique temptations.?Because of your loneliness, you may be uniquely tempted tomorrow in regard to sexual impurity. Pornography might seem particularly appealing. Don’t give in. It will only end up hurting you and dishonoring the Lord.
  • Remember that marriage is not the end all.?I am so grateful that I am married. But as you know, marriage is not the thing that will ultimately satisfy you and solve all your problems. Only Jesus can satisfy our deepest longings. If you’re not content in your singleness you won’t be content when you are in a relationship.

I don’t write these things lightly. I know that Valentines Day is full of loneliness for single folks. I pray that tomorrow God will give you a double dose of divine joy.

Now if you’ll excuse me, I’ve got some of those awful chalk hearts to eat.

Stephen



Does the Bible Tell Us What Church Should Look Like?

Donald Miller ruffled quite a few feathers when he recently wrote on his blog that he doesn’t regularly attend church.

While I disagree with much of what he said, I won’t parse through every point. Others have already done that. But Miller said one thing that bothered me very much. Actually he said two things, but they were part of the same point. His point was that the Bible does not give us specific instructions as to what church should look like, which therefore means that no one can really claim to attend a “biblical” church.

The reason this statement bothered me so much is that it is so blatantly false. To claim that the Bible doesn’t tell us what church should look like is to ignore many, many very clear scriptures. To claim that Bible doesn’t tell us what church should look like also allows a person to substitute his own preferences for the clear teaching of scripture, which Don Miller seems to do at numerous points in his blog post.

So what does the Bible have to say about church?

1. A biblical church involves at least two people gathering together in the name of Jesus.?“For where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I among them” (Matthew 18:20). Working with a client on a team building exercise, while valuable, is not church. Church consists of believers coming together, in the same physical space, in the name of Jesus Christ. To gather together in the name of Jesus means gather together to publicly worship Jesus, serve Jesus, and help others love Jesus. If you’re not gathering together with other believers in the name of Jesus, don’t call yourself a church.

2. A biblical church celebrates the Lord’s supper together.?1 Corinthians 11:23-26 says, “For I received from the Lord what I also delivered to you, that the Lord Jesus on the night when he was betrayed took bread, and when he had given thanks, he broke it, and said, ?This is my body which is for you. Do this in remembrance of me.? In the same way also he took the cup, after supper, saying, ?This cup is the new covenant in my blood. Do this, as often as you drink it, in remembrance of me.? For as often as you eat this bread and drink the cup, you proclaim the Lord?s death until he comes.”

Jesus commanded his followers to regularly come together to remember and celebrate his death. This is a command, not an optional add-on for the Christian life. This isn’t about preference or opinion or “connecting with God” (a phrase Miller likes to use). The Lord’s supper is a communal event in which the church publicly?proclaims the death of Christ. While not expressly forbidden, there isn’t a single place in scripture where a person celebrates the Lord’s supper by themselves. A biblical church celebrates the Lord’s supper. If you’re not celebrating the Lord’s supper with other believers, don’t call yourself a church.

3. A biblical church is led by qualified elders.?In Titus 1:5-9, Paul said to Titus: “This is why I left you in Crete, so that you might put what remained into order, and appoint elders in every town as I directed you? if anyone is above reproach, the husband of one wife, and his children are believers and not open to the charge of debauchery or insubordination. For an overseer, as God?s steward, must be above reproach. He must not be arrogant or quick-tempered or a drunkard or violent or greedy for gain, but hospitable, a lover of good, self-controlled, upright, holy, and disciplined. He must hold firm to the trustworthy word as taught, so that he may be able to give instruction in sound doctrine and also to rebuke those who contradict it.”

Paul insisted that the churches he founded be led by qualified elders. This was so important to Paul that he left Titus behind in Crete for the express purpose of finding and appointing qualified elders for each church. In our post-modern, democratic society, the idea of eldership isn’t especially popular, but it is especially biblical. If you’re not being led by qualified elders, don’t call yourself a church.

4. A biblical church worships in song together.?Ephesians 5:18-21 says, “And do not get drunk with wine, for that is debauchery, but be filled with the Spirit, addressing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody to the Lord with your heart, giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.”

Notice that this passage has both a vertical and a horizontal dimension to it. We are to be filled with the Spirit, making melody in our hearts to the Lord. We are also to address one another with our psalms, hymns, and spiritual songs. Singing isn’t just about you connecting to God or experiencing a particular emotional response. When the church gathers to sing we are also proclaiming truth to one another. Honestly, God isn’t primarily concerned with whether or not we like singing or emote when we worship. He is concerned that we proclaim his goodness and glory to Him and to one another through song. If you’re not singing to the Lord and to one another, don’t call yourself a church.

5. A biblical church maintains corporate holiness through church discipline.?Matthew 18:17 says, “If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector.” The church really is a place of spiritual protection. Jesus expects his followers to help one another pursue holiness. If a Christian begins to engage in serious sin, Jesus expects the members of his Christian community to lovingly rebuke him. If the person refuses to repent of his sin, the entire church is expected to get involved.

This process presupposes that a Christian will be vitally connected to other Christians. The reality is, the process of discipline can’t happen apart a local church. If you’re not maintaining holiness through church discipline, don’t call yourself a church.

6. A biblical church is a place where Christians can use their spiritual gifts to bless one another.?1 Corinthians 14:26 says, “What then, brothers? When you come together, each one has a hymn, a lesson, a revelation, a tongue, or an interpretation. Let all things be done for building up.”

In writing this verse, Paul was clearly assuming that the Corinthians would be gathering together on a regular basis in the name of Jesus for the purpose of worshiping together. When they gathered together, they were to use their spiritual gifts to build one another up. It is impossible to build other Christians up if you’re not regularly gathering together with other Christians in the context of corporate worship. If you’re not using your spiritual gifts to build other Christians up, don’t call yourself a church.

Contrary to what Donald Miller says, attending church is not about tribalism, or learning styles, or opinion, or preference. Attending church is a matter of obedience.

And there really is such a thing as a biblical church.

Church Shouldn’t Be A Place For Misplaced Shame

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?Ask me about the hole in my throat.? That?s the kind of caption that gets your attention! The accompanying picture is of a man with, you guessed it, a hole in his throat.

The ad was on a billboard, part of a campaign by the Center for Disease Control against smoking. Maybe you?ve seen similar ads, like the ones that made their way around Facebook with a clever spoof mocking the idea of ?social smoking.? The idea behind the campaign is to change the way we think about smoking: it?s harmful, and it?s not cool.

The anti-smoking campaign is one example of the way we use shame to change behavior. When a society perceives an activity as acceptable, people can do it openly without fear of repercussions. Change the perception of that same activity from acceptable to unacceptable, and most of us will change our ways or hide our behavior. Shame is a powerful motivator.

But shame can be misplaced. When I see a campaign against smoking I can?t help but think about other moral issues our society deems perfectly acceptable and not shameful: abortion, divorce, pornography, to name a few. We seem to take aim against things that are harmful to our personal health, but turn a blind eye to those that destroy genuine human relationships.

The world around us isn?t the only place that uses shame to enforce behavior ? nor is it the only place where shame is misplaced. Sadly, the church is often a place for the same misplaced shame. Consider the kind of issues in a church that divide us into an ?us? vs. ?them.? Maybe it?s homeschooling versus public schooling; if you choose the right option for your kids, you?re ?in.? You?re part of ?us.? Choose the wrong option, and you?re one of ?them.? We could add things to the list: which version of the Bible you use, health food or dieting choices, what kind of extra-curricular activities your kids participate in, the authors you choose to read. Most of those are personal preferences where we elevate and spiritualize our own choices while shaming those who choose differently. But there are also issues of temptations and struggles with sin which divide us into ?us? and ?them?: a struggle with same-sex attraction, battles with substance abuse, or a temptation to swearing. Confess one of those sins in a small group setting and watch people back away like you?ve got the plague. But every one of those examples, and any others we could list, is an issue of misplaced shame.

Now don?t misunderstand me. It?s not that God?s church should be a place with no standards, no activities that are deemed unacceptable. After all, the New Testament is filled with commands that gospel-believing Christians are to obey. We are to be holy as the Lord is holy (1 Peter 1:15). This is Spirit empowered, grace motivated obedience ? but it is obedience. Despite what we often say, there?s one sense in which the church isn?t the place where you can be accepted and welcomed for who you are, no matter what you do. If ?who you are and what you do? is sleep with your girlfriend, persistently lash out in anger at your family, live in constant debt, or use dishonest financial practices, the church can?t simply ignore or accept those behaviors. In light of the reality of sin, that?s not true love. We must be willing to speak up, each of us and as the church together, when sins bring dishonor to Christ. So talking about misplaced shame should not be interpreted as a way to excuse sin or minimize the need for personal holiness.

But the problem is that shaming is a much easier ?solution? to another?s sins than an honest conversation characterized by good listening, willingness to hear a different perspective, and, if necessary, a loving rebuke or correction. But when churches, small groups, or even families use shame to govern behavior, they end up creating pockets of secrecy under superficial conformity. Instead of being a place where the real God meets real life, such communities become places where the ?God? that is openly talked about becomes increasingly irrelevant to the real but well-hidden struggles people actually confront. Even worse, shaming people we disagree with places on them a load that Christ has already removed. In Christ our shame and guilt are both gone; who are we to replace that burden on another?s shoulders?

Shame is never an appropriate motivator for Jesus? people. Instead of creating a culture of, ?We don?t do that here,? whatever ?that? might be, the church is to be a place that welcomes all kinds of strugglers and meets them with the transforming message of the gospel. Sometimes we just need to learn to accept differing opinions in matters of personal preference. Other times we need to enter in with first love and listening, then well-chosen words of timely wisdom that bring the gospel to bear on actions that do need to change (Eph. 4:29). But throughout our goal is to view our brothers and sisters as God views them: accepted, beloved, and shame-free in Jesus Christ.

?Therefore welcome one another, as Christ has welcomed you, for the glory of God? (Rom. 15:7).

Photo by Joe Gatling.