When A Brother Or Sister Is Ensnared In Sin – What To Do (And Not Do)

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Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted. Galatians 6:1

Ever been caught in a sin? The word translated “caught” in Galatians 6:1 means “overtaken.” It has the meaning of becoming ensnared. Overpowered. Caught in a trap.

Not only unbelievers, but believers can get tripped up by sin. Ensnared. Unable to break out easily.

How should we react?

How should we treat someone who is overtaken by a sin? What if someone comes to you and confesses they’re?ensnared in pornography? Or they’ve been giving into anger or overeating. How should we react to them?

Unfortunately, believers don’t always react with much gentleness. When a teen?confesses a sin, parents say things like, “How could you do such a thing?” Or “What were you thinking?” Sadly, there were times when my children confessed sin to me?that I expressed my disappointment by dropping my head or displaying a pained?look.

God’s word says?that if anyone is caught in ANY transgression we should restore them with gentleness. ANY transgression ? believers fall hard at times. Believers get ensnared in bad things. Sin is deceptive and very often believers fall prey to its wiles. Although it’s disappointing and sad and at times shocking when?a fellow believer confesses falling?into a serious sin, we must be careful in the way we react to them.

Our goal: restore them to Christ

Our first goal should be to RESTORE them to Christ – “you who are spiritual should restore him.” ?We should point them to Jesus’?forgiveness and mercy. To remind them that he paid for every single one of our?sins on?the cross. To assure them that Jesus?is a sympathetic and merciful high priest who waits on his throne of grace to show them mercy and give them help in time of need.

Even if they are unrepentant our goal should be to rescue and restore them to Christ. Church discipline as described in Matthew 18 is not punishment but a rescue operation that seeks to win straying sheep back to the Lord.

Gentleness, not exasperation

And as we seek to restore someone we should do it “in a spirit of gentleness,” not?exasperation ? “I can’t believe you did that again!” There’s no?place for anger or disgust. Sin has painful consequences, and sinners are often hurting. Hurting people?need to be handled with gentleness.

This doesn’t mean we can’t bring correction, especially if they aren’t listening or repenting. But we should always treat others as we would like to be treated.

And one of the greatest motivators for gentleness is to “keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted.” We should never judge?anyone caught in a sin, because next time it might be us. We could be tempted and fall into the same sin, or a different one, and find ourselves needing to be restored. Never think, “How could this person do this?” Or “I would never do that!” It’s always best to think, “I’m a sinner too. I could fall too. Our roles might be reversed next time.”

I haven’t always done these things well. I haven’t always been gentle. I have been arrogant in my heart. But I want to be more like Jesus who didn’t wait for us to have our acts together before he had compassion on us. And I want to fear God, knowing that I can be tempted and fall just like anyone else.

Are You Making People In Your Image?

In a post last week we discussed how seeing every person as made in God?s image helps motivate us to love those who are different than us. We were thinking primarily on evangelism, on loving the lost whose preferences and priorities seem like barriers to us. In those situations, seeing the image of God in the tatted up biker or the suited-up choir boy compels us to find common ground and share the hope of Christ. It?s hard. It stretches us. But then isn?t comforting to know that if God saves those people, he?ll change them so they get rid of all those weird differences? They might even begin to look a bit like you. Because everybody who is saved and becoming mature (like you) is bound to begin to think and act more like you, right?

Ouch. It hurts to air my secret thoughts that baldly. But if I?m honest I often work from this hidden assumption: the more people mature, the more they look like me. (Don?t leave me hanging here! Admit it, you do too.) For some reason, though, my church and my family and my relational world are constantly full of people so different than me! Boy do they have a lot of maturing to do.

Thankfully there?s more of God?s truth functioning in my heart than that. I know diversity is a good thing, something God has designed. But I need a theological foundation for that belief, because it is hard to escape the sinful tendency to think all godly people look and think alike. Here?s where the doctrine of the image of God comes in. It?s not only for evangelism or theology tests. It needs to be part of the way we view our spouses, our kids, our church family, and every close Christian relationship we have. In salvation, God is remaking people in his image ? not yours, and not mine. That means differences are by God?s design. No single human being can come anywhere close to reflecting the fullness of the infinite God. The more your spouse, child, or fellow Christian becomes like Christ, the less they?ll look like you.

A personal story here. I?m the oldest of five kids, raised in a Christian household with godly parents and siblings. I became a pastor one year after college. My sister after me got married and started a family. This seemed like the start of the normal American Christian path. Then something happened. The remaining brothers and sisters started seeking the Lord for their own futures, and started saying crazy things about what God was showing them that didn?t at all sound like my plan for their futures. I wanted to sputter like a broken motorboat engine, ?But, but, but, but?.that?s not what this was supposed to look like!? My siblings, however ? and God ? ignored my engine noises and proceeded down paths leading a lot of places I hadn?t expected. And gradually God has reminded me that this is okay, because he?s remaking my siblings in his image, not mine.

Can you relate? That?s the challenge: are we content to help people become like God, even if that means becoming less like us? Parents with teens, can you let go of your dreams for your child?s future (athletics, ministry, taking over the family business, whatever) and allow God to mold them in his image? Wives and husbands, can you let go of your plans to finally make your spouse ?see things your way,? and instead thank God for putting you with a person who differs from you? Pastors, are you fighting the temptation to make a church of clones and instead simply be an assistant to the master Sculptor as he refashions your people according to his own designs? And church members, is it enough to you that God is at work in your pastor or in your fellow believers ? even if that means they upset the equilibrium of sameness in your church?

Diversity stretches. It breaks down walls, walls that need breaking. No Christian can reach their potential in Christ confined by the limits of man-made uniformity. Our recreation in God?s image, when it is complete, will one day shout the glory of God to the entire cosmos (see Eph. 3:10). And you know what? That is worth a little stretching and wall-breaking in the present.

?Image by Easter Island Traveling

 

How Spiritual Are You?

How do you know if someone?s spiritual?

If he quotes Bible verses, sports Christian t-shirts or plasters his bumpers with rapture stickers? If she has visions or utters long, flowery prayers?? If he can find the book of Habakkuk within 30 seconds?? (Now that?s really spiritual).

Apparently some in Galatia thought they were spiritual, perhaps for their law-keeping, so Paul set them straight:

Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted (GA 6.1).

Spiritual people restore sinners with gentleness.

To be ?caught in any transgression? can mean to fall suddenly into sin, like stepping into a bear trap.? We didn?t mean to get angry, but got into an emotional discussion and next thing lashed out in anger.? We didn?t intend to lust, then an image presented itself, and we gave into it.

Being “caught in any transgression” can also mean we’ve become enslaved by a habitual sin.

How do we react at finding brothers or sisters? ensnared by sin?? Do we look down on them in disgust or judge them?? When our children blow it do we shake our heads and say, ?What were you thinking?? (This was one of my parents? favorite questions when I was a kid.? Obviously, I wasn?t thinking anything.)? Do we gasp in disbelief, ?How could you do this?? or bludgeon them with, ?After all I?ve done for you…”

How would you respond if a brother confided to you he was enslaved to pornography?? Or if your daughter confessed she was pregnant?? What would you do if you caught your teenager lying?

Think how Jesus spoke to the woman caught in adultery – he didn?t condemn or grimace in disgust, but restored her gently and compassionately.? He didn?t ask ?How in the world could you be so unfaithful?? but? said, “I don’t condemn you.? Go and sin no more.”? I’m sure one of the reasons society’s outcasts were attracted to Jesus was they knew how gently he dealt with sinners.

I want my fellow sinners, whether friends or family, to feel they can confide their temptations and sins with me, knowing I’ll seek to gently restore them to Jesus.? After all, it might be me confessing next time.

photo by Jim Linwood