Clothe yourselves, all of you, with humility toward one another, for “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” 1 Peter 5:5
One of my favorite cartoon characters is a skunk – Pepe Le Pew, and one of my favorite sayings of his is:
Makes me feel humble, yet sort of proud.
I regularly quote this to my wife.
Another one of my favorite quotes is by Muhammed Ali: “It’s hard to be humble, when you’re as great as I am.”
I think deep down inside most of us think of ourselves a lot like Ali. Only most of us are smart enough to know not to say it out loud. If we don’t think we are great, we’re depressed because we think we should be great.
I think that’s why Peter says to “Clothe yourselves, all of you, with humility toward one another.” Humility isn’t natural to fallen humans. But when Jesus saves us and fills us with his Spirit, we begin to change. But it doesn’t happen automatically. We must make an effort clothe ourselves – with humility.
We must put humility on. This doesn’t mean we fake it, but that we begin to do it, even though it takes effort. Putting on humility isn’t easy. After all, it’s not easy to be humble when we’re as great as we are. But it can be done.
Here are a few suggestions for how to put on humility:
Listen to others.
And while you are listening don’t try to think of the next thing you’re going to say. If you find yourself interjecting, “But, But, But” it’s usually a tipoff that you’re probably not listening. And sticking your fingers in your ears and saying, “Ah-ba-ba-ba-ba” is not a real good sign you’re listening either.
A sign you’re not teachable is if you can’t wait for people to stop telling you something. You keep thinking I know that, I know that. Yes, I already know that, aargh! I know everything you’re going to say in advance.
Don’t blame others for your sins.
Well, I wouldn’t have smashed your windshield if you hadn’t first given me that funny look. I wouldn’t have gotten angry at you if you hadn’t rolled your eyes at me. You see, when someone rolls their eyes at me I fly into an uncontrollable rage. In fact, you caused my rage. It’s actually your sin.
Don’t be so sure you’re right all the time.
I have news for you – there are actually people in the world who know more than you. And I hate to break your heart, but there are actually people in the world who are more discerning than you.
Remember, Jesus calls us to have a faith like a child, which certainly involves humility.
Take an interest in others.
Here’s another top secret tip for you: other people are really interesting and fascinating. Probably not as interesting and fascinating as you, but try to take an interest in them anyway.
A humble person tries to draw others out. Here’s how you can do it: ask them questions about themselves, for example, “Oh, so you are into beekeeping? How did you ever get interested in that bor–I mean, fascinating hobby? How many times have you been stung? Have you ever gone into anaphylactic shock? Are you any relation to Billy the Exterminator?” Humble people are interested in others.
Ask for forgiveness; don’t just say I’m sorry.
Say “Please forgive me for?” rather than “I’m sorry if…” Don’t say, “I’m sorry if you were offended by my oh so tactful comments. I’m sorry you’re so dang sensitive and immature that I can’t call you an idiot without you getting all in a dither about it.”
Practice the spiritual discipline of asking for prayer for areas of weakness and temptation.
And don’t ask for prayer for an “unspoken request”. Where did unspoken requests come from anyway? I don’t remember reading anywhere “confess your sins to one another and pray for one another’s unspoken requests”. It’s humbling to ask others to pray for us because that’s admitting we’re weak. And we want everyone to think we’re strong. Remember, we’re simply earthen vessels who are weak and easily broken. We need prayer from others.
Clothe yourself with humility. Cover yourself in it. If God’s command alone isn’t enough, then do it for this reason: “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” You don’t really want God opposing you, do you? And you want God to give you grace and favor, right?