Jesus Isn’t Your Boyfriend, But He Loves You All The Same

Valentines Day. That holiday when all you single men and women are reminded that you have no one “special” in their lives. That you’re all alone. That no one really seems to care about you. Everyone else seems to be living a Kay Jewelry commercial, while you’re living in an commercial (not sure why I picked that company). You can feel miserable, worthless, unloved. Like a loser. If you’re really feeling low, maybe you’ll throw a party for yourself and watch reruns of Dr. Quinn, Medicine Woman.

If that’s how you feel today, this post is for you. I want to remind you that your identity is not in your relationship status, your identity is in Christ. You may not have that special someone in your life, but you have Jesus Christ himself dwelling in you! You are united to Christ, joined inseparably to him. You are really, spiritually connected to Jesus, and because of that you can actually have joy on Valentines Day.

Ephesians 1:3-6 says:

Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in Christ with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places, even as he chose us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and blameless before him. In love he predestined us for adoption as sons through Jesus Christ, according to the purpose of his will, to the praise of his glorious grace, with which he has blessed us in the Beloved.

Today you may not have a “special someone” or feel valuable. ?But the truth is, you are in Christ, and because you are in Christ, you are valuable to God! Our culture says that you’re only valuable if you are in a relationship with him. Not true! God chose you before the foundation of the world to be holy and blameless before him. Because of his unfathomable love, God chose you to be adopted. He has given you every spirtual blessing in Christ. The love of a fellow human, as wonderful as it is, is fickle, finite, and unstable. But God’s love for you is rock steady, unshakable, and rooted in eternity.

If V-Day makes you miserable, let me encourage you to find your identity in Christ. That is the only place you can find a truly, steady, unshakeable love. Jesus isn’t your boyfriend, but you are still loved. Deeply, deeply loved.

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Stephen Altrogge

I'm a husband, dad, writer. I drink too much coffee and know too much about Star Wars. I created The Blazing Center. I've also written some books which people seem to like. You can follow me on Twitter and Facebook