How do we know if God loves us? Do we know he loves us when we have a nice house or a new car?
Do we know he loves us when we get a good job or good grades? Do we know he loves us because he gives us children or grandchildren? Or sunny days?
What if we don’t have these things? What if things aren’t going well for us? Are we sure that God loves us? If we lose our job does that mean God doesn’t love us? If we get sick or If things don’t go well with our children does that mean God doesn’t love us?
None of these things are proof that God loves us or doesn’t love us. There is only one unshakable unchanging way of knowing that God loves us. And that is that he gave his only Son to die for us while were sinners. While we were spiritually dead and blind, with no interest in or love for God at all.
Obviously John 3:16 is a good starting place:
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.”
Obviously a fantastic verse. But maybe God gave his Son for us because we were so lovable. Nope. The Bible says God gave his son for us while we were sinners, living in rebellion against him, completely uninterested in him, with no desire to know or love him or to be saved.
It says in Ephesians 2:
But God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us, even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ—by grace you have been saved— Ephesians 2:4-5
Our God was RICH in mercy to give his Son for us. And he gave Jesus for us because of his GREAT LOVE for us. His love was so great he made us alive together with Christ “even when we were DEAD in our trespasses.” Dead – we had no spiritual life at all. No interest in God. No love for God. No desire for him. All we loved was our trespasses. All we desired was our sin and our selfishness. There was no reason at all for God to love us, but he had such great love and mercy that he saved us by his grace and made us alive in Christ.
Now that is GREAT LOVE!
But not only did the Father love us so much that he gave his Son, but Jesus himself loved us.
I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me. Galatians 2:20
Jesus couldn’t love us any more. His love for us is infinite. There could be no greater love than the love Jesus has for us. He himself said:
Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends. John 15:13
And walk in love, as CHRIST LOVED US and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God. Ephesians 5:2
Not only did the Father love us, but Jesus loved us when we were lost, dead, and wrapped in the filth of our sin.
AND the Father and Jesus loved us LONG before we were even born.
Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in Christ with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places, even as he chose us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and blameless before him. In love he predestined us for adoption to himself as sons through Jesus Christ…Ephesians 1:3-5
God chose us in Christ before he created the world and “in LOVE he predestined us for adoption to himself as sons through Jesus Christ.”
Not only have the Father and Jesus loved us from all eternity, but nothing will ever be able to separate us from their love:
Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or danger, or sword? As it is written,
“For your sake we are being killed all the day long;
we are regarded as sheep to be slaughtered.”
No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord. Romans 8:35-39
NOTHING will ever be able to separate us from God’s love in Christ. EVER.
Notice this passage says that we may go through tribulation and distress. We may go through persecution. We might experience famine or nakedness. Christians of all ages have experienced these things. But if we suffer, or are distressed, that will not mean that God has stopped loving us. If we lose our job or get sick that won’t mean God has ceased to love us.
We won’t always FEEL God’s love. If you don’t feel like God loves you, that doesn’t mean it’s true. Feelings are real, but they aren’t always the truth.
We have rock solid proof that God loves us because Jesus came to earth, demonstrated that he is God over and over again, died on the cross to pay for our sins because he loves us, then rose from the dead and was seen by all kinds of people over and over after he rose (1 Corinthians 15:3-11).
We have God’s word. God tells us again and again that he loves us in his Word, and God does not lie.
God is not man, that he should lie, or a son of man, that he should change his mind. Has he said, and will he not do it? Or has he spoken, and will he not fulfill it? Numbers 23.19
God loves you and me. He tells us he loves us. He has demonstrated his love for us. And nothing will ever separate us from his love – whether we feel it or not. Believe God’s word. Thank him and praise him for his love. Rejoice in his love. And regularly call to mind his love:
But THIS I CALL TO MIND, and therefore I have hope: THE STEADFAST LOVE OF THE LORD NEVER CEASES; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. Lamentations 3:21-23