How To Pray: Follow These 7 POWERFUL Steps (2023)

Want to learn how to pray?

In some ways, prayer is incredibly simple. After all, when you pray you simply talk to God. He is your Father in heaven and loves to answer prayers.

But the Bible also gives us plenty of direction about prayer. Let’s look at what the Bible says about talking with God.

How To Pray To God: Getting Started

Let’s start with the basic of prayer. Thankfully, it’s really simple. 

What Is Prayer? 

Prayer is talking to God and having a conversation with God. On the one hand, prayer is intimate. You are communing with your Father, the One who loves you deeply. On the other hand, prayer is holy and sacred. You’re speaking with God Himself, the maker of heaven and earth, the ruler of the universe! 

We see this incredible truth in the first words of the Lord’s prayer:

Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name.

When the disciples said to Jesus, “Teach us to pray,” he told them not to pile up empty words like the Pharisees. Instead, he told them to start by remembering that God is their father AND that He dwells in heaven.

Why Should We Pray?

We should pray because God does amazing things in response to our praying. When we pray, the Lord helps us. He fills us with His spirit. He strengthens us for trials. He does miracles. He makes us more like Jesus Christ.

One of the main reasons our prayer life suffers if because we underestimate the power of prayer.

What Do You Say When You Pray?

There are no specific rules or formulas that dictate what you must say when you pray. Ultimately, prayer is about pouring out your heart to God. Remember, prayer is rooted in your relationship with God. God wants you to draw near to Him in prayer and talk to Him.

You can pray about:

  • Asking God to provide your daily bread (i.e. meet your needs)
  • Things you’re thankful for
  • Praise the Lord for who He is
  • Ask God to help you with challenging circumstances
  • Pray over Bible verses
  • And anything else!

What Time Should You Pray?

The Bible doesn’t list a specific time to pray. Throughout the Bible, it’s clear that all times are good for praying. Daniel prayed three times per day. Jesus often rose early to pray or prayed late into the night.

In 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 it says, “Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.”

When should you pray?

  • When you’re happy
  • When you’re sad
  • When you’re stressed
  • When you’re worried
  • When you’re depressed
  • When you’re angry
  • When you’re feeling great
  • When you’re feeling thankful

Why Do We Pray In The Name Of Jesus?

We pray in the name of Jesus Christ because He is the one who makes us acceptable to the Father. The blood of Jesus covers all our sins and we can come into the presence of the Lord without fear or shame because of Jesus.

When we end our prayers with, “In Jesus name, amen,” we are asking our heavenly Father to answer us because we have the righteousness of Jesus Christ covering us. Apart from Jesus, we would have no reason to expect the Lord to hear us and bless us in prayer. But Jesus makes us acceptable to the Lord and we can pray confidently.

How To Pray: 7 Powerful Steps

Now let’s talk about specific things that should characterize our prayers.

We should pray:

  • With reverence
  • With intimacy
  • With strong faith
  • With thanksgiving
  • With boldness
  • With the Bible open
  • At all times and in all ways

Let’s look at each of these.

1. With Reverence

The first step in learning how to pray is to remember who we are praying to. Prayer is no small thing. It is not an empty religious ritual where we mindlessly chant words. When we pray, we are coming before the living God, the King of Kings, the one who sustains the universe and keeps it from coming apart at the seams.

When Isaiah caught a glimpse of the Lord, he was completely and totally undone. When he realized how holy and pure and righteous God was, he unraveled at the very core of his being.

In Isaiah 6:2-4, we see what Isaiah saw:

Above him stood the seraphim. Each had six wings: with two he covered his face, and with two he covered his feet, and with two he flew. And one called to another and said:

“Holy, holy, holy is the Lord of hosts;
the whole earth is full of his glory!”

And the foundations of the thresholds shook at the voice of him who called, and the house was filled with smoke.

This is the God to whom we pray. He is holy, holy, holy. He burns with such brightness that the angels cover their eyes. He dwells in unimaginable glory.

Do you want to know how to pray to God? Pray with humble reverence. Praise God for his breathtaking, overwhelming power and beauty and holiness. Bow your heart low before him.

2. Intimately To Your Father In Heaven

Yes, God is infinitely holy and righteous. But if you are in Christ, then God is also your Father. This is an absolutely breathtaking truth that should dramatically shape the way we pray.

Prayer is a conversation with our divine Father, and oh how much our Father loves us. In Matthew 7:11, Jesus said:

If you then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask him!

I have three kids, and because I love them so much, I want them to ask me for things. I want them to ask if we can play “Uno” or if they can have an Oreo or if I’ll pay for them to do gymnastics. I’m their dad, and my heart pulses with affection for them. I delight to give my children good gifts.

God’s love for us is infinitely greater than my love for my children. He takes deep pleasure in giving good gifts to us. He loves to bless us.

Doesn’t that change the way you think about prayer? When it comes to praying to God, we don’t need to twist his arm to get blessings. He is eager and ready to pour them out on us.

I love how Tim Keller puts it:

The only person who dares wake up a king at 3:00 AM for a glass of water is a child. We have that kind of access.

Do you want to know how to pray? Pray to God with deep, heartfelt intimacy. Bring your every request to him, knowing that his posture toward you is one of love and generosity. He is eagerly waiting to hear your requests.

Approach the throne of grace with boldness, knowing that your Father sits upon it.

3. With Strong Faith In Your Heavenly Father

If God loves to give good gifts to us, then it follows that we should pray with faith. When we pray, we should believe that God really will answer our prayers.

No, I’m not advocating some sort of name and claim it theology that results in all of us receiving brand new cars and bags of money.

But when I see the promises Jesus made about prayer, I’m aware that all too often my faith is extraordinarily weak. In Mark 11:22-24, Jesus said to his disciples:

Have faith in God. Truly, I say to you, whoever says to this mountain, ‘Be taken up and thrown into the sea,’ and does not doubt in his heart, but believes that what he says will come to pass, it will be done for him. Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.

This is a mind-boggling promise. When we pray, we are to believe that we will receive it from God.

Are there times when God says, “No,”? Of course. I’m so grateful for the many times God hasn’t granted my insane requests of him.

But when it comes to learning how to pray to God, our primary attitude should be faith. Our prayers should be pulsing with faith that God loves to bless and wants to give us good things.

Do you want to learn how to pray? Let your prayers be absolutely brimming over with faith.

4. How To Pray: With Much Thanksgiving

It’s so easy to ask, ask, ask, without pausing to first give thanks to God. Our lives are absolutely bursting with blessings if we only have eyes to see them. When learning how to pray, it’s absolutely critical that we learn the discipline of thanksgiving.

Psalm 30:4 says, “Sing praises to the Lord, O you his saints, and give thanks to his holy name.”

Psalm 9:1 says, “I will give thanks to the Lord with my whole heart; I will recount all of your wonderful deeds.”

It’s so important to remember that prayer is a conversation with God, not some sort of magical formula that produces everything we want.

We are in a covenant relationship with God. He is our God and we are his people. Prayer is actively engaging with our God, casting all our cares on him because we know he cares for us.

When God blesses us, the only right response is overflowing thanksgiving. We don’t deserve the overwhelming blessings God pours into our lives, and yet he never stops blessing us.

A lack of gratitude dishonors the Lord.

In his helpful book Prayer: Experiencing Awe and Intimacy With God, Tim Keller says:

We are never as thankful as we should be. When good things come to us, we do everything possible to tell ourselves we accomplished that or at least deserve it. We take the credit. And when our lives simply are going along pretty smoothly, without a lot of difficulties, we don’t live in quiet, amazed, thankful consciousness of it. In the end, we not only rob God of the glory due him, but the assumption that we are keeping our lives going robs us of the joy and relief that constant gratitude to an all-powerful God brings.

When learning how to pray, it’s critical that thanksgiving be part of the equation.

5. Talk To God Boldly

When thinking about how to pray, it’s easy to feel like our requests need to be perfect. Like we need to ensure that all our motives are correct and that we say the right words. As if God only accepts perfectly crafted prayers.

But here’s the good news. Jesus himself is praying for us. Romans 8:34 says:

Who is to condemn? Christ Jesus is the one who died—more than that, who was raised—who is at the right hand of God, who indeed is interceding for us.

When we pray, Jesus also prays for us. And he takes our weak, feeble, sloppy prayers, and presents them to God on our behalf. His righteousness purifies our prayers and makes them acceptable to God.

When learning how to pray, we don’t need to be constantly worried that our prayers aren’t “good enough”. Rather, we can trust that Jesus himself is making our prayers beautiful to the Father.

Again, to quote Paul Miller from A Praying Life:

God also cheers when we come to him with our wobbling, unsteady prayers. Jesus does not say, “Come to me, all you who have learned how to concentrate in prayer, whose minds no longer wander, and I will give you rest.

Isn’t that good news? We don’t have to learn how to pray perfectly. We don’t have to memorize lengthy prayers and then recite them flawlessly in order for God to accept our prayers.

We come to God with our messy, flawed, often misguided prayers, and he joyfully accepts them because of Jesus.

6. Pray With The Bible Open

One of the most effective ways to learn how to pray is to pray with your Bible open. God has given us so many promises in his word, and each of those promises is an invitation to pray.

For example, in Philippians 4:19, Paul writes:

And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.

We can take this promise and use it as a springboard for prayer. You could pray something like, “Lord, you’ve promised to supply all my needs. Please provide for me today in every way, financially, spiritually, emotionally, and any other need I may encounter.”

I love how Charles Spurgeon put it:

The best praying man is the man who is most believingly familiar with the promises of God. After all, prayer is nothing but taking God’s promises to him, and saying to him, “Do as thou hast said.” Prayer is the promise utilized. A prayer which is not based on a promise has no true foundation.

If you want to learn how to pray, let the scriptures guide you. Take each promise of God and pray it back to him, confident that he will be faithful to fulfill his promises.

7. Pray At All Times In Every Way

The beauty of prayer is that, because we are in Christ, God welcomes all types of prayers. Short prayers, silent prayers, prayers in the car, single sentence prayers before a meeting, prayers of desperation, etc.

In 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18, Paul writes:

Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.

Paul is describing a life where communion with God is happening constantly. We’re called to cultivate a mindset of constant prayer and rejoicing and thanksgiving. Prayer isn’t primarily something that happens at a given time and in a given place, although it’s certainly helpful to have designated times of prayer.

Rather, prayer is primarily a lifestyle. It is the habit of constantly conversing with God, casting cares upon him, giving thanks for blessings, and rejoicing in his goodness. As you learn to pray, don’t restrict yourself. Pray at all times in all places to God.

The great preacher D.M. Lloyd Jones said:

Always respond to every impulse to pray. I would make an absolute law of this – always obey such an impulse.

Where does it come from? It is the work of the Holy Spirit; it is a part of the meaning of ‘Work out your salvation with fear and trembling, for it is God which worketh in you both to will and to do of his good pleasure’ (Phil 2:12-13).

I absolutely love that. Any time we feel the slightest impulse to pray, do it. Those impulses are the Holy Spirit working in us.

Let Us Learn How To Pray

Is there any greater privilege than prayer? Prayer is inviting God into the nitty-gritty details of our lives and asking him to do great things. And the testimony of millions of God’s people is that God indeed does do great things in response to prayer.

So let us learn how to pray. We’ll never regret a moment spent in prayer. We will regret all the times we failed to pray and tried to carry burdens on our own.

Hey, I'm Stephen Altrogge. I'm a dad and published author. I've written for The Gospel Coalition, Desiring God, ERLC, Church Leaders, Crosswalk, and many more outlets. You can follow me on Instagram and Facebook .

15 thoughts on “How To Pray: Follow These 7 POWERFUL Steps (2023)”

  1. Talk about timely I was just writing about it this morning for my bible study group. This is a draft:
    Many times I hear how powerful prayer is, the power of prayer, how we prayed a brother or sister into a healing etcetra, Let me be blunt it is not prayer that is powerful it is God. Prayer has no power in and of itself. Prayer is not some magical ritual we perform. It is God who heals, saves, grants our pleas not the prayer itself.
    It is important to remember what prayer is. Prayers are our humble requests to almighty God to fulfill some desire we have.
    How many times do we ask God for his help and how many times do we thank Him?
    Shouldn’t we be thanking Him not just for answered prayers but for the multitude of blessings He showers on us daily, most of which we take for granted?
    Our prayers should begin and end with giving thanks for His love and mercy which He freely gives us.

  2. Excellent! Your article addresses every biblical component of prayer. I have often felt so inadequate when praying, not thinking I was saying the right words which activated God’s hearing! I know my Father loves and hears me when I pray but I allow doubt to interfere with my prayers. Thank you for your insight, it will be of great help in the future. Maranatha

  3. Hey there folks. I’ve always wondered how prayer works and doesnt work. There is obviously a wrong way to pray because many prayers go unanswered, yet your posts are testament to the fact that prayers do get answered. Can anyone shed some light on this ?

    • comment on blazing center about unanswered prayers.

      Robert, God has been faithful to me as an individual, that is why I can say with confidence that prayer works. It works if you have faith in the one to whom you present your petition (Mtt 15:28; Mark 11:24; John 11:40). It doesn’t work when doubt sets in (James 1:6; Mtt 14:31). In my view motive and attitude behind prayer also define whether a prayer is wrong or not. Prayer is a conversation between you and God. If you reckoned God as a Father and at the same time the president of your country, how would you approach Him if you want to speak to Him and also when you meet him how do you speak to Him. God never contradicts Himself (John 14:13-14; Mtt 7:7-8; Mark 11:24; Mtt 21:22). He swears to Himself but He honours His words. He doesn’t need the presence of anyone to be His witness to honour what He promises to do. Yes, Robert prayers do receive answers; sometimes answers delay others times responses are prompt, and on some occasions the answer is “NO”, but even when His answer is “No’ it is an Answer in the right direction because, that No may be to our advantage. We need to remember that we can’t fix our time into God’s timing because “As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are His ways higher than your ways and His thoughts than your thoughts”. (Isaiah 55:9; Psalm 139:1-18). As a loving and all knowing Father who cares and knows you more than you know yourselves (Psalm 139), He would not give you anything that would be harmful to your life in the near future. “Which of you, if your son asks for bread, will give him? or if asks of fish will give him snake? If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!” (Mtt 7:9-11). Therefore, in my opinion His “No” to a prayer offered, is an answer in a right direction.

      An answer to a prayer may tarry if we fail to fulfill our part of the bargain. Jesus says we should settle all our differences with our neighbors before we bring our offering (Mtt 5:23-24). He also told us in Isaiah 59:2 that “but your iniquities have built barriers between you and your God,” suggesting that our prayers doesn’t even reach the throne of God even for it to be answered. We need to restore our relationship with God by doing away with our sins in order experience His faithfulness.
      Robert I pray that my simply explanation answer your question. Thanks

  4. I have been a ‘prayer triplet’ for a number of years and still feel that I inadequately express my prayers and have difficulty in larger groups, preferring to listen rather than boldly speak out, yet I know He hears what my heart is saying and has blest me in so many ways. Thank you for your article which I found to be positive and uplifting. Kathleen kemp

  5. I have recently started a prayer journal to help me to pray. When I feel God is directing me I write it down. This has given me confidence in praying. Sometimes it is just one word He gives me like ‘purpose’. I then reflect and pray on this then maybe Google the biblical meanings. I find this focuses my mind. Lately I have felt Him saying “Feed my sheep”. I then could speak to Him about my lack of confidence in witnessing. He has helped me by giving me avenues to write about Jesus. I am sure this will give me the confidence to speak about my faith. God is Gracious a ‘very present help in time of trouble?” Praying can be done anywhere eg. at a bus stop or in the supermarket. I am asking God to direct me in this.
    I hope this will help and be a blessing to someone. Thank you.

  6. From Robert. I agree 100% with everything you said. My problem is I don’t think the good will come to me, because I really don’t think Robert deserves it, and I’m praying on this.
    thank you for your input.

  7. I’m praying for deliverance I’m praying for my son Ronald and my daughter Antiniqua I’m praying for the lord to give my family a mind blessing and Spritual eyes to show us who for us and who against us I’m praying for wisdom knowledge and understanding and a Financial blessing and I won’t to get closer to god

  8. Great Article! I couldn’t resist suggesting to you this Powerful Christian Book :

    God’s Model of Forgiveness: How You Can Model God’s Forgiveness (From Sinner to Saint Metamorphosis Series)


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