Dear Moms, Jesus Wants You To Chill Out

FACT: If your children can’t read by age four there is a 95% chance they will end up homeless and on drugs.

FACT: If your children eat any processed food there is an 85% chance they will contract a rare, most likely incurable disease, by age 12.

FACT: If you’re not up at dawn reading the Bible to your children, you are most likely a pagan caught in the clutches of witchcraft.

FACT: If your children watch more than 10 minutes of television a day there is 75% chance they will end up in a violent street gang by age 17.

Obviously, the “facts” listed above are not true (at least, I don’t think they are). But, I’ve noticed that the Internet has made it much easier for people, and moms in particular, to compare themselves to each other. Now, just to be clear, this is not a post against “mom blogs”, or whatever they’re called. If you write a mom blog, that’s cool with me. This is a post to encourage the moms who tend to freak out and feel like complete failures when they read the mom blogs and mom Facebook posts.

Moms, Jesus wants you to chill out about being a mom. You don’t have to make homemade bread to be a faithful mom. You don’t have to sew you children’s clothing to be a faithful mom. You don’t have to coupon, buy all organic produce, keep a journal, scrapbook, plant a garden, or make your own babyfood to be a faithful mom. There’s nothing wrong with these things, but they’re also not in your biblical job description.

Your job description is as follows:

  • Love God. This simply means finding some time during the day to meet with the Lord. It doesn’t have to be before all the kids are awake. It doesn’t have to be in the pre-dawn stillness. Your job is to love God. How you make that happen can look a million different ways.
  • Love your husband (unless you’re a single mom, of course).Your second job is to love and serve your husband. Husbands are to do the same for their wives, but that’s for a different post. If your husband really likes homemade bread, maybe you could make it for him. But don’t make homemade bread simply because you see other moms posting pictures of their homemade bread on Facebook.
  • Love your kids.Your calling as mom is to love your kids and teach them to follow the Lord. They don’t need to know Latin by age six. If they do, more power to you. But that’s a bonus, not part of the job description. Your job is simply to love your kids with all your exhausted heart, and to teach them to love Jesus. That’s a high calling. Don’t go throwing in other, extraneous things to make your life more difficult. If you want to teach your kids to sew, great. But don’t be crushed by guilt if your kids aren’t making stylish blazers by the age of 10.

Moms, Jesus want you to rest in him. He wants you to chill out. His yoke is easy and his burden is light. Don’t compare yourself to other moms. Don’t try to be something God hasn’t called you to be. If the mom blogs are making you feel guilty, stop reading them. Be faithful to what he has truly called you to do, and know that he is pleased with you. When your kids are resting, don’t feel guilty about watching an episode of “Lost”, or whatever your favorite show may happen to be.

Love God, love your husband, love your kids. Keep it simple and chill out.

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Stephen Altrogge

I'm a husband, dad, writer, & Mixed Martial Arts Salsa Dancing Champion. I created The Blazing Center. I've also written some books which people seem to like. You can follow me on Twitter and Facebook


  • This is a great article!! Not only do I as a mom need to chill out, but as a mom in ministry, I cannot compare my ministry in a small church to a similar ministry mega-church. The enemy would love for us to be so stressed out that we forget to stop and rest. I may just read my Bible during breakfast tomorrow instead of beating myself over the head because I didn’t wake up at the crack of dawn. Thank for the reminder!!

  • Wonderful advice! Where were you thirty years ago when I needed to hear this?! It is indeed a heavy yoke trying to be ‘Super Mom’ every day. Thank you for these priceless words.

  • This is just what I needed to start my morning.. Great article..

  • Thank you for the grace you show in your post and the reminder of the grace we have in Christ. I often feel like a failure when I compare myself to other moms who seem to have it all together. The things you listed as important and apart of our job description can get lost in our desire to be like others who view as being “better” moms then us. God gave me my children at the time in my life that he saw fit, and he knew before the begging of time how things would go, good days and bad days. Days when I look at my children and am so blessed to see the seeds God has used me, as a mom, to plant in them and days when I look at my children and think about the ways I feel that I am failing them. If we, as moms, focus on what it is that God has called us to do-we are being obedient unto the Lord and that’s what matters, not if make homemade bread or sew their clothes or give them everything their friends have or give them everything we didn’t have ourselves as children. Just being obedient to the Lords call for us mom is much easier, I think, then what the world demands we do to be thought of as “good mom’s”. What makes one mom and “good mom” isn’t what makes another a “good mom”, as long as we are obedient in the way we are called, that obedience can be expressed in so many different ways. It’s a matter of intent from the heart.

  • Love this. Thanks for sharing. Reading mom blogs, parenting books, etc makes me feel guilty.. Reading the Bible refreshes and encourages me. I seem to be a better mom when I rely on the Bible and pray than outside sources.

  • Our digital world makes it so much easier for us to compare ourselves to each other. We need reminders like this to remain focused on the things that matter. Thanks.

  • I get the point and love the article, and totally agree we have to stop comparing ourselves to another mom, but I disagree with the discription of the mom not planting a garden, sewing clothes not being Biblical. Proverbs 31 Virtuous Woman did all those things. It may be hard to live up to, but it’s in there. 😉

  • Wendy – During a very informative study of Proverbs 31, it was brought to my attention that the description is about one woman over multiple seasons in her life. So, she didn’t do all of those things all the time. That gave me some great relief (especially after just having a baby)! There will be different seasons in our life with different priorities where our day will look different – that was a very life-giving insight for me!

  • I know those things aren’t expected by the Lord but I also know that many of my mom friends that find themselves discouraged because they aren’t accomplishing anything are also the moms that are continuously on social media and reading blogs about all the things they wish they were. Not pointing fingers because I’m guilty but I’ve recognized the problem and have set time limits for these things. They are thieves that steal our time and rob us of looking into our children’s faces when they address us or telling them repeatedly that I”ll be there in a minute or we’ll do that tomorrow simply because I can’t shut down the social media. It’s an addiction. I’m afraid we make excuses for our weariness and frustrations as a mom on too many other things instead of directing the blame where it should go. Since setting time limits I’m actually able to do some housework and actually prepare meals AND bake…who knew?!?!?! Be encouraged!

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